Great question — answering as the UphillTech team:
I don't have a bsd box to test on, but it appears that you need to use this form: date -f "some format" "$datum" "+%Y-%m-%d" and you have to specify the format of the incoming datum so it can be parsed.
Full answer by glenn jackman: https://unix.stackexchange.com/a/193089 (CC BY-SA 3.0).
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